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A Truthful life
Janet Howard Janet Howard

A Truthful life

I honor you little Janet. I hear your voice. I feel your pains. It’s okay to release your anger now so we can let it free - heal - forgive - and be at peace. And forgive yourself - forgive myself.

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20 Breaths
Janet Howard Janet Howard

20 Breaths

I gently pushed off into the darkness - slowly frog-stroking away from shore,

stretching my arms and legs and moving through the darkness into the unknown,

now an ocean creature, through the cold, healing liquid.

for ten counts out

turning,

and ten counts back.

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Lessons From Falling Down
Janet Howard Janet Howard

Lessons From Falling Down

Lessons from falling down. Sometimes in life — we fall. It can’t always be avoided. We can notice the conditions, give ourselves a warning and fall.

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Lessons from Food Services in Assisted Living
Janet Howard Janet Howard

Lessons from Food Services in Assisted Living

I didn’t know I would learn the names of so many people, get to know them - learn about their kids, their career, their life partners and the nicknames that their partner called them - like Honey Bun. Once when I called someone that - she told me that her deceased husband called her that - so we started calling each other Honey Bun.

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I Can’t. I Am. I Did. - Lessons from uncomfortable positions
Janet Howard Janet Howard

I Can’t. I Am. I Did. - Lessons from uncomfortable positions

Every dawn - I face discomfort head on. One minute each. Every morning. I start the day doing something that I think I can’t. This short, daily kriya is an important component of my spiritual healing practice. It represents life - Tackling what scares me the most. The things I don’t want to do - the parts of my self I don’t want to look at.

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Pushing Through: Stop
Janet Howard Janet Howard

Pushing Through: Stop

There was no room for ginger steps.

In the early years.

I had to push through.

But I don’t have to do that anymore.

I can stop pushing.

I can stop pushing.

I can walk gingerly.

and take care.

of my

self.

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Shedding Suits
Janet Howard Janet Howard

Shedding Suits

Spring stayed in hiding this year

no crocus pushed up through the earth

a faucet turned on and only quiet revealed

a dawn with no trill

peep-less ponds

an ocean with no current

mountains collapsed

in a heap

lying still

only love and gratitude

will rouse her from rest

from her wounds

she is cold

dark

and quiet

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Field notes on letting go
Janet Howard Janet Howard

Field notes on letting go

I stopped looking for bracelets. They are gone now. But I found a big snail, spiderwebs, flowers and stepped on the jaw bone of a hog with horns and teeth. I imagine the artifacts of my childhood, ancestry, career, loves and motherhood shedding as I wend along the path that I can’t see clearly yet. - I’m bushwhacking. I’m crawling under boughs, getting scratches on ankles from prickly flowers and losing my sense of direction. I fall down sometimes, the hedge impenetrable - I concede to nature. I cannot pass right now. There is no clear path yet. Lie down and rest. So I do - reluctantly. I have to laugh. And I like it.

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Roosters and a Herd of Cats
Janet Howard Janet Howard

Roosters and a Herd of Cats

First stop is Ohau - Malaekahana Beach Campground.

A mental note to come back one day

with my kids

for that campfire, disconnection from mainstream life, boogie boarding

and that green curry on rice.

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This story starts with fear
Janet Howard Janet Howard

This story starts with fear

After a 30 plus year career in health care sustainability, I have resigned from my current employment, where I have been for 18 years. My last day of work is January 7, 2022. Holding on tight to past events is part of my safety strategy. I am mentally prying things out of my clenches - finger by finger and letting go. I’m cutting energetic cords. I focus on my breath, trying to look forward and not back.

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Lessons from KitKat - A Needy Cat
Janet Howard Janet Howard

Lessons from KitKat - A Needy Cat

KitKat’s depth of need appears bottomless - perhaps that mirrors my own. As I take the time to love and comfort her - I take the time to love and comfort myself.

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Clearing a Path to the Heart
Janet Howard Janet Howard

Clearing a Path to the Heart

With the cleansing of tears streaming and nose running, I was cutting, pulling, ripping, and dragging -- revealing a path that was easier to see, easier to navigate and easier to follow – now that the blocks were removed – a pathway to the heart – to home - to myself.

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Janet Howard Janet Howard

You'll See

“You aren’t meant to be married in this lifetime.”

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